Raising Black Girl Magic

A friend told me that I’m too hard on my four-year-old daughter. It instantly made me compartmentalize the intensity of the intimate moments that I share with my daughter. I became flooded with thoughts such as, “well maybe you are a little hard on her when it comes to homework…maybe you shouldn’t be as hard on her when it comes to social and self-awareness…”

Then I reconnected with reality and threw the whole ideal away. I am raising a young black lady in a world that will chew her up and spit her out of she’s weak-willed, simple minded, or easily influenced. I must love hard, teach hard, and work hard to make sure she’s mentally, spiritually, and physically equipped to face this world head on. Therefore, I make my expectations extremely clear along each checkpoint we reach on our mother/daughter journey. 

My goal is to embed the qualities: individuality, confidence, intelligence, awareness, creativity, and open-mindedness in her heart and mind every day. I can’t cripple her growth with a fractured foundation full of fairytales and rainbows. The power will be her realizing that thoughts finalize visions. Therefore, once the execution catches up to the manifestation…the fairytales and rainbows are at her discretion.